Here’s a little secret about divorced couples: they can still be friends. There seems to be a stigma attached to divorce, as well as a belief that once the papers are filed and the matter is settled, the couple will be enemies for life. As the definition of “family” changes and people find themselves in different circumstances throughout their lives, more and more are realizing the value of having their ex-spouse on their side. Just because you weren’t compatible in matrimony doesn’t mean you aren’t good together as friends, or even something more.
Besides making the whole divorce process easier, here are a couple of reasons to remain friendly with your ex-spouse:
They Know You Better Than AnyoneIf you were married for even a few years, it’s more likely than not that you built your whole life around your spouse. During this time, they probably got to know your likes, dislikes, insecurities, strengths and weaknesses. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to have someone to talk to who knows all these things about you and who can offer real, genuine insight when things aren’t going well?
It Sends a Positive Message to Your Children It’s more important than ever to remain at least civil to your ex when there are children involved. Parenting is much easier when you have a friendly and qualified ally to shoulder some of the responsibility. Staying friendly with your ex will go a long way toward preserving the family dynamic and giving your children a sense of normalcy as they’re growing up. It will also prevent your kids from trying to pit one parent against the other, as children of divorce have unfortunately been known to do from time to time.
The reality is that just because you couldn’t stay married to someone doesn’t mean that person should be out of your life forever. An experienced and qualified divorce attorney can help you finalize your divorce with integrity so you can preserve your family and avoid undue headaches.
For many years, Graziano & Flynn has been helping clients move through their divorces in minimal time and without collateral damage. Contact us today for a free consultation so we can begin to protect your interests regarding spousal support, child custody and more.